I have 4 email address for my web: pamelarmccabe.com. If I use your automatic email configuration method for Microsoft Outlook Express, do I select POP3 only or POP3 with SSL?

I have tried and tried to configure outlook exp. myself to no avail. I have 2 forms and a guestbook that use sales@pamelarmccabe and pam@pamelarmccabe.com and although there appears to be communication, I have no messages in the received email. Is the information submitted to the forms received elsewhere- somewhere in the Cpanel? Why is this such a complicated procedure for all of us?

Thank you for your help